Long distance relationship. How do we survive?

Assalamualaikum semua,

How is everything going on in your life? Hari ni dah masuk hari terakhir bulan October. This means I have literally less than 5 months before my wedding day. Isn't that sounds reaaaally soon? Ohh, speaking of which, I'm not quite sure about how does it feels when the big day is getting nearer. Nervous? Not really. Umm, not yet I guess. Worry? Yes! Sebab tak siap apa pun lagi untuk majlis. Excited? Big yes!! Kalau boleh cepatkan laagi bagus. hehe. :p

Sometimes people ask me about how do we (me and my fiancé) handle long distance relationship. Ye lah, sorang di benua Eropah, sorang di benua Australia. Bukan sikit-sikit punya jauh tu. Nak-nak pulak lepas dah bertunang. Bukan makin kuat ke cabaran? What I could say is, I'm glad that we made the decision to get engaged end of last year. Hari ni cukup sepuluh bulan usia pertunangan kami rupanya. Alhamdulillah, everything is good until today's date.

Benua Eropah.

Benua Australia.

Well, all good relationships share a foundation of trust. But, when you are in a long distance relationship, it requires trust times ten! Ha, sampai macam tu sekali lah dia punya gambaran. Ye la, mana taknya, bila jauh-jauh macam ni, ingat tak rasa insecure ke dengan apa pasangan kita tengah buat. Apa? Bila? Dengan siapa? Kat mana? Kalau boleh dari sekecik-kecik sampai sebesar-besar benda rasa macam nak ambik tau.

However, as as the level of maturity grows, semua soalan-soalan tu akan bertukar dengan kepercayaan. Mungkin kalau dulu, tak reply message, merajuk, lambat call, mengamuk, tak cerita buat apa, marah. Tapi sekarang ni bila dah makin dewasa, perasaan-perasaan tu dah makin dapat dikawal. Why? Because we don't want our imagination to run free and dream up hurtful scenarios. Bila otak tak fikir bukan-bukan, insyaAllah hati pun tenang. :)

Lagi satu, I always believe communication is the second most important thing after trust. Zaman sekarang ni bukan susah pun nak berkomunikasi. Semua pakat pakai handphone canggih-canggih. Internet pun sampai ke ceruk kampung mana pun dah boleh dapat. So, invest some of your precious time and keep your significant other feels close to you by sending them updates about you. Without fail. Everyday. 

In our case, we might not have much time (and money, of course) to talk on the telephone. So we use free instant messages like Whatsapp and Facebook Messenger to say short hello regularly. And then, we never missed our skype session almost everyday as it provides a certain amount of intimacy, making us feel somewhat closer. Here is some good tips from me, always smile when you speak with him, and remind him sweetly that you miss him, but hope all is well with him. Cubalah! :)

So, those are the things I could share about how me and my fiancé make our long distance relationship works. Buat masa ni Alhamdulillah, semua berjalan lancar dalam tempoh pertunangan kami. Diharapkan semoga Allah permudahkan semua urusan kami sehingga majlis akad nikah berlangsung dan panjangkan jodoh kami sehingga ke Jannah. Just remember, cruising a love relationship requires a lot of commitment. We don't know if our cruise has a smooth sailing or not, but if you hold on tight, your ship will anchor well. InsyaAllah.